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Friendship
Friendship for many, to include scholarly
individuals, is actually some sort of an informal
category without specific limitations or boundaries.
Like when you say a person is a friend, you do not say
that he is your friend in school, or he is your friend
in the office or a friend in any category of
undertaking. Usually, friendship would indicate mutual
relationship that you give and take for each other with
a time span that will always depend on each party
concerned.
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Friendship sms, love
Friendship for many, to
include scholarly individuals, is actually some sort of
an informal category without specific limitations or
boundaries. Like when you say a person is a friend, you
do not say that he is your friend in school, or he is
your friend in the office or a friend in any category of
undertaking. Usually, friendship would indicate mutual
relationship that you give and take for each other with
a time span that will always depend on each party
concerned. The degree of friendship would usually be
dependent on the circumstances that resulted to such
relationship. The degree of friendship with a classmate
at school will be different than the degree of
friendship with a neighbor friend. Even in work, the
ties of friendship a person has with his co-employees in
an office work will be different from the ties of
friendship between soldiers. In most cases, the degree
of dependency among one another in a particular
undertaking, would measure the degree of friendship
among them.
Friendship for that matter takes on
many forms like casual friends whom you may consider
already as friends even when you have just meet them
once, twice or thrice in a gathering, long time friends,
people you have known since you were young like your
neighbors, and best friends like your close in barkadas
or groups that you are always with and shares with you
whatever they have and you, whatever you have, in
return. These sharing between best of friends are not
only limited to material things but also would include
spiritual and emotional sharing like keeping and
advising your friends in keeping up with their faith and
other emotional problems that they have. These sharing
of all aspects of your daily life, sometimes you use
friendship sms text messages, lovely friendship sms that
will cause to deepen the friendship between your groups
of friends.
There are, however, a lot of people
who uses friendship as a tool for self advantage. The
sad thing about these kinds of people would be the fact
that once they have gained their purpose because of the
friendship that they were able to establish they just as
suddenly junk the friends that helped them in the first
place. These people are those that can be considered as
friendship for advantage gals and guys. There are also
those who will only make friends with people who share
with them their passion. These people are those that we
can categorize as people who look for selective
friendship. People in this category can be persons who
are into different hobbies or undertakings that they
value so much that once they know you have the same kind
of aspiration would then try to consider you as a friend
in such kind of an undertaking. For example, a person
with a passion for horses can easily make friends with a
person in the horse breeding business. And if you are a
SCUBA enthusiast, you can make friends easily with an
underwater photographer once you chanced to meet each
other.
These kinds of friendship actually, are
not only related to hobbies like playing with your
mobile phone, sending sms messages, sharing love text
and other special skills that a person has to make
friends with other persons sharing with him interest in
the same field of endeavor. These can also be true to
even negative habits such as drinking, gambling and
womanizing. This is precisely why we have this saying,
Tell me who your friends are and I will tell you who you
are.
Do You Want To Be A
Friend Or A Date
When we then continue to talk about "friends" and
"friendship" we soon start approaching the decision we
have to make; do we just want to be penpals or do we
want to meet face to face at some point in time.
This brings us to the dangerous word: Dating &
Courtship.
Yes, we have now convinced ourselves that we want to
date somebody.
Just on the Web or for real? We
can now play games based on the fact that most people
trying to find dates on the Web are married. Does that
surprise you? Given the anonymity of the Web it is very
likely that if I am fat and ugly I don't want to
emphasize this fact when I try to attract a date, so
temptation is very great to embellish things a bit and
to say in my description that I am "Voluptuous" and
"Attractive".
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First of all,
let's define "friend".
Do we want to find an
"old" friend?
Lots of websites specialize in
helping you find an "old" existing Friend.
These
sites are called "classmates", "reunions", "public
records" or names along the lines of trying to find
acquaintances from way back, from school, the Service or
previous jobs.
Do we want to find "people"?
We can use "publicbackgroundcheck",
"usa-people-search", "peoplefinders" types of sites for
finding people.
If, however, we are looking for
love and are calling it friendship initially then things
get really complicated.
For the word "friendship"
the Web comes up with 46,100,000 replies.
So we
should be more specific about what exactly the "friend"
word means. "a person you know well and regard with
affection and trust; "he was my best friend at the
university" ally: an associate who provides assistance;
"he's a good ally in fight"; "they were friends of the
workers" acquaintance: a person with whom you are
acquainted; "I have trouble remembering the names of all
my acquaintances"; "we are friends of the family"
supporter: a person who backs a politician or a team
etc.; "all their supporters came out for the game";
"they are friends of the library" a member of the
Religious Society of Friends founded by George Fox (the
Friends have never called themselves Quakers)
"wordnet.princeton.edu/perl/webwn
We can now of
course rank friends: good friends, intimate friends,
family friends ad infinitum. When we then continue to
talk about "friends" and "friendship" we soon start
approaching the decision we have to make; do we just
want to be penpals or do we want to meet face to face at
some point in time.
This brings us to the
dangerous word: Dating & Courtship.
Yes, we have now
convinced ourselves that we want to date somebody.
Just on the Web or for real? We can now play games
based on the fact that most people trying to find dates
on the Web are married. Does that surprise you? Given
the anonymity of the Web it is very likely that if I am
fat and ugly I don't want to emphasize this fact when I
try to attract a date, so temptation is very great to
embellish things a bit and to say in my description that
I am "Voluptuous" and "Attractive".
Who knows, in
all likelihood I will never meet this person anyway and
this is only fantasy. Guess what? I now start
corresponding in earnest on the Web with this person I
know nothing about. I tell this person all my deepest
secrets, except the fact that I am ugly and fat. After
doing this for a while my "Date" says that we should
meet in person, because it seems we are really
compatible.
YEEKS! What now? Well, you brought
this on yourself and you have these options:
1.
Go on a crash diet and get a face lift.
2. Forget
about this person and try again with a new date.
3. Hope your Date is fat and ugly too so you should take
a chance and meet anyway. (This takes a lot of courage).
4. Hope your Date is pretty or attractive and VERY
understanding and will accept you the way you are. (Fat
chance).
So, anyway, there you have it, some of
the possibilities you have when you want a Friend.
One thing you should pick up from this : you are
probably better off if you are honest to your future
friend or date; it may prevent depression, bouts of
overeating and Internet Withdrawal Symptoms.
Falling For A
Friend Is Nothing Out Of The Ordinary
Falling for a friend is nothing out of the
ordinary. Falling for a friend can happen quite often,
especially between two people that share a lot of things
in common with each other.
Friends usually spend
a lot of time together. Friends often do the same things
together. Commonality is the main reason people become
friends. However there are times when too much
familiarity can be mistaken for something more.
This type of situation happens mainly between friends of
diff...
Falling for a friend is nothing out of
the ordinary. Falling for a friend can happen quite
often, especially between two people that share a lot of
things in common with each other.
Friends
usually spend a lot of time together. Friends often do
the same things together. Commonality is the main reason
people become friends. However there are times when too
much familiarity can be mistaken for something more.
This type of situation happens mainly between
friends of different gender. Kindness and friendly
affection can easily be confused with feelings of love.
Quite often, women are the ones that fall prey to this
attraction. However many men have also been in the same
situation.
Gestures that would normally mean
nothing are misconstrued as something more than it is. A
lot of people get mixed signals about friendships with
the opposite sex. Situations like these are normal but
it is up to the individual to figure how he or she will
handle it.
Falling for a Friend – Is it Mutual?
Is it mutual? People that end up falling for a
friend should consider if the feeling is in fact mutual.
Unfortunately most friendships are just friendships.
Falling for a friend can one way or another complicates
the friendship.
All people value friendship,
especially with the opposite sex, since many find it
hard to maintain a platonic relationship with the other
sex. Because of this, they have a tendency to avoid
situations wherein falling for a friend would virtually
end the friendship.
In general, many men and
women are true and dedicated friends. However there are
some men and women who cannot resist their attraction to
the opposite sex. Many romantics often fall victim to
this situation and end up spoiling any chance of a
successful relationship with the opposite sex.
How to Handle the Situation of Falling For a Friend
Once a person has established that he or she has
indeed fallen for his or her friend, it is necessary to
figure out the next move. The next move is crucial to
the survival of the friendship. A person that has fallen
in love with a friend can either take advantage of the
situation or let the feeling pass.
Most of the
time, a loyal friend would merely let the sentiment
pass. Taking into account all the reasons why falling
for a friend would be detrimental to the friendship.
This is possibly because most romantic relationships
never last whereas nearly all friendships last a
lifetime.
A lot of people also let the feeling
pass for fear of embarrassment. Especially if the
feeling is not mutual, which is often the case when
falling for a friend. Unfortunately this can also cause
a person extreme anxiety that can also strain the
friendship.
On the other hand there are some
people who are willing to risk the friendship in the
name of love. These individuals take the chance of
freely expressing their feelings for a friend. However
the person must also be ready to face the possibility
that the feeling would not be reciprocated.
This
makes the situation more complex as getting back into
the friendship after a public declaration of affection
can also strain the relationship. In most cases, both
parties start to feel awkward in each other’s company.
One feels guilty for expressing their emotion while the
other feels guilty for being unable to return the
affection.
However if both parties genuinely
share the feeling, then it would certainly be a match
made in heaven for both parties. This means that the
relationship has the opportunity of blossoming into a
legitimate and possibly lasting relationship.
It
would still require a lot of hard work and commitment
from both parties involved. But keep in mind that this
is a once in a lifetime opportunity that may or may not
happen.
Falling for a friend is a tough
situation for any man or woman to face. The risk of
losing the friendship is imminent and even more painful
for the aggrieved party. On the other hand falling for a
friend can bring about a beautiful future between two
people that genuinely care for one another provided both
are willing to work at it.